The socialization of girls and women to be catty against their sisters

 
I guess this doesn't just come from nowhere. I really want to address this issue. It is important for my friend group to heal and not cut each other any further than they already have. This is even extended further beyond my friend group to people I don't even know. 

Men are socialized at a young age to be angry when they are mad and deal with it at that point. They are told not to cry and given sports for emotional outlets. Women are socialized at a young age to keep it inside. Of course this sadness/anger builds and explodes like a pissed off volcano and hits unsuspecting parties for miles with lava. 

It's crazy that girls are suppose to 'be nice' and not talk about things. The way boys and girls are brought up really effects everyday life but most people continue on like there isn't anything wrong. 

Men usually bond when things are going well, whereas for women it's almost the opposite.While men form relationships through joint activities, such as workload sharing or having a drink after work, women tended to bond by providing emotional support through informal chats. WE HAVE ALL DONE THIS. 

Women actively go out and seek friendships when they're stressed and experiencing drama. They're probably more likely to tell others of their discontent, because they're motivated to get support by disclosing what's going on. 

Words that are used to define Cattiness are: Insecure, Envy, Malice, Viciousness, Grudge, Spite, Hatefulness, Nastiness, Evilness, and Malevolence..... just to name a few. So, which one describes you? 

If on a regular basis, you feel the need to share your negative opinions of women, with whom you really know nothing about, you are catty. If you hang out in cliques - be it personal or professional - and you seem to always find the time to strike up the latest gossip in reference to women you work or socialize with, you are catty. If you live with several women and have managed to cause division between them, you are catty. If you get a thrill out of persuading others to dislike individuals whom you dislike, you are catty. This list can go on and on, but why waste the time when you already know yourself. 

Cattiness is a surefire sign of Low Self-Esteem issues within you; otherwise, you wouldn't engage in such behavior. You are wasting all of your time and energy on nothing. No one is ever really content on living a life of continuous discard, confusion, and chaos; therefore, you seek ways to ease your inadequacy through your stellar performances of Cattiness. You don't have a clue as to why you act this way, nor of the real underlying negativity issues you project to and on others, by engaging in the obvious evil of Cattiness. 

When you feel threatened, displays of Cattiness are utilized as temporary band-aids to cover-up that which you fear the most....."The Truth About Yourself." Your Cattiness takes the attention away from your own faults, resulting in you pointing them out in others. And do you even know what it is that you're fearing? You can deny the facts of Low Self-Esteem being the reason you engage in Cattiness if you want, but you know the real truth. And the real truth, is that you Envy those whom you unnecessarily criticize and subject to your Catty behavior. 

Cattiness gives you back, via the Universe, that which you disburse to others about others such as: Body aches & pains, Unnecessary arguments in your relationships, Stress in your life, Discontinuing of your blessings from the Universe, Enemies, Bad breaks in life, Loneliness, Depression, Confidence Issues, Inferiority, Inadequacy, Lost of Jobs, and so on and so forth. Why would you want to live that way? Furthermore, what gives you the right and how did you acquire such a broad range of knowledge to judge others? What you see in others as negative, you feel in yourself. What you hate in others, you see in yourself. What you criticize in others, you want for yourself. The Confidence you see in others, is the Low Self-Esteem you feel within yourself. 

Acknowledging the negativity within yourself, is the first step towards change. Stop blaming others for your unfortunate circumstances and bad breaks in life. Your life as you see it, is the result of your own actions. Have you contemplated and pondered on the issue as to why your life is in such disarray? Use the energy that you're wasting on Cattiness, towards the betterment of your life. Look deep within for your solution. Until you gain insight of your underlying negative issues and put forth serious efforts to change them......You will never live a peaceful life because peace will never exist in you. 

NOW A WONDERFUL EXERCISE FOR ALL THE LADIES.... YES ALL OF US! 

First off, no more speaking to someone about what you're pissed off about, when it involes you and another girl (not the one you're venting to) 

VENT TO the person you are angry with and stop flappin your jaws to everyone else. 

Breath, all bullshit is biodegradable and seems to cycle away on it's own. Every morning I meditate and surround my family, friends, ENEMIES, problems, and good things as well with light. It is not worth the negativity so I just wish everyone well. (So not like me even a few months ago) BUT peace comes and the cool part is the negative shit and untrue friends kinda squirm away. They can't handle the happy shit cuz they wallow in their own misery and you know what they say about misery! 

ANYWAYS let's all practice this stuff together, it will own. 

Tips

Oatmeal

Knock out your fiber needs with cholesterol-lowering oatmeal! Just one serving of oatmeal (1/2 cup dry) has 2 grams of soluble fiber. According to the Mayo Clinic, 10 grams or more of soluble fiber daily decreases your total and LDL (bad) cholesterol. We’ve got tasty ways to get your day started right by enjoying high-fiber oatmeal. For each bowl, start with 1/2 cup of instant or dry oatmeal. Cook according to package directions, then add our delicious themed toppings.

• Pumpkin Pie Oatmeal

You’ll definitely love the pumpkin flavor in this sweet bowl of oatmeal.

Ingredients:
* 2 tablespoons fat-free vanilla yogurt
* 1 tablespoon pumpkin butter
* 1/8 teaspoon pumpkin pie spice

Nutrition: 137 cal., 2 g total fat (1 g sat. fat), 0 mg chol., 44 mg sodium, 27 g carb., 2 g fiber, 4 g pro.

• Cheesy Hash Brown Oatmeal

This recipe is a staff favorite! The oats blend right in with the hash browns for a south-of-the-border taste.

Ingredients:
* 1/4 cup cooked hash brown potatoes
* 2 tablespoons shredded Monterey Jack cheese
* 1 tablespoon salsa

Nutrition: 244 cal., 11 g total fat (4 g sat. fat), 13 mg chol., 310 mg sodium, 29 g carb., 3 g fiber, 8 g pro.

• Tropical Coconut Oatmeal 

Get whisked away to the tropics with a bet-you-never-tried-it combo of flavors in this oatmeal.

Ingredients:
* 1 tablespoon macadamia nuts, chopped
* 2 tablespoons toasted, shredded coconut
* 2 tablespoons dried pineapple

Nutrition: 262 cal., 13 g total fat (6 g sat. fat), 0 mg chol., 54 mg sodium, 34 g carb., 4 g fiber, 5 g pro.

• Hot Cocoa Oatmeal 

Think hot cocoa mix only goes a mug? We’ve re-envisioned it as an oatmeal topper.

Ingredients:
* 1 tablespoon instant hot cocoa mix
* 2 tablespoons mini marshmallows

Nutrition: 221 cal., 3 g total fat (1 g sat. fat), 0 mg chol., 156 mg sodium, 44 g carb., 3 g fiber, 5 g pro.

• Bacon & Salsa Oatmeal

This oatmeal recipe proves that you can still enjoy bacon on a heart-healthy diet if you eat it in moderation.

Ingredients:
* 1 strip chopped, cooked bacon
* 2 tablespoons reduced-fat cheddar cheese
* 2 tablespoons diced tomato
* 1 tablespoon sliced green onion

Nutrition: 172 cal., 8 g total fat (3 g sat. fat), 17 mg chol., 295 mg sodium, 16 g carb., 2 g fiber, 10 g pro.

• Blueberry Nut Oatmeal 

No pancakes here! Transition traditional flapjacktoppers into oatmeal flavor-boosters.
Ingredients:
* 1/4 cup blueberries
* 1 tablespoon chopped walnuts
* 1 tablespoon maple syrup

Nutrition: 204 cal., 7 g total fat (1 g sat. fat), 0 mg chol., 7 mg sodium, 34 g carb., 3 g fiber, 4 g pro.

• Apple Crisp Oatmeal 

Crisp apples, granola, and almonds put bite in your oatmeal bowl.

Ingredients:
* 1/2 cup chopped apple
* 2 tablespoons low-fat granola
* 1 tablespoon chopped almonds
* 1/8 teaspoon apple pie spice

Nutrition: 200 cal., 6 g total fat (1 g sat. fat), 0 mg chol., 40 mg sodium, 34 g carb., 5 g fiber, 6 g pro.

• Peanut Butter Cup Oatmeal

A dab of peanut butter and a sprinkle of chocolate chips are all you need to jazz up your oatmeal.

Ingredients:
* 1 tablespoon creamy peanut butter
* 1 tablespoon mini chocolate chips

Nutrition: 257 cal., 14 g total fat (5 g sat. fat), 0 mg chol., 78 mg sodium, 27 g carb., 3 g fiber, 8 g pro.

• Turtle Sundae Oatmeal 

Pure indulgence, this sweet treat hardly seems like another boring oatmeal breakfast.

Ingredients:
* 1/4 cup fat-free whipped dessert topping
* 2 tablespoons pecans
* 1 tablespoon sugar-free caramel dessert topping

Nutrition: 252 cal., 12 g total fat (1 g sat. fat), 0 mg chol., 45 mg sodium, 34 g carb., 3 g fiber, 4 g pro.

• Trail Mix Oatmeal

Bring trail mix to your breakfast table by tossing the grab-and-go bits on your oatmeal.

Ingredients:
* 2 tablespoons mix dried fruit bits
* 2 tablespoons dry-roasted mixed nuts
* 1 tablespoon flaxseed

Nutrition: 276 cal., 14 g total fat (2 g sat. fat), 0 mg chol., 18 mg sodium, 33 g carb., 6 g fiber, 8 g pro.

Oat & Chocolate Parfait

Oat & Chocolate Parfait

Ingredients:

• 1 cup instant oats
• 2 cups water
• 1/2 cup + 2 tbsp coconut milk
• 2 tbsp water
• 1/4 cup + 1/4 cup dark chocolate chips
• 1 tsp vanilla
• 1/4 tsp instant coffee powder
• 1 pinch salt

Directions:

Dry roast the oats for a few minutes and let it cool completely. Once cool, grind it into a fine powder. Combine the oats powder with the rest of the ingredients (except the 1/4 cup chocolate chips and 2 tbsp coconut milk) in a pan and slowly bring it to a boil stirring continuously. Let it cook for a minute or two till the oats is cooked through.

To make the parfait, spoon some chocolate oatmeal into a small glass and place some chocolate chips on it. Top it with more oatmeal and one more layer of chocolate chips. Cover it with one last layer of oatmeal. Do this when your oatmeal is still hot as that will help the chocolate chips melt.

Finally drizzle the coconut milk and a couple of chocolate chips on top to garnish.

Serve hot.

Lime and Coconut Balls

Lime & Coconut Protein Balls

Ingredients

100g almonds
500g soft dates, soaked and drained
5 scoops Whey Protein
zest of 2 limes
juice of 2 limes
3/4 cup shredded unsweetened coconut
1 tsp vanilla
water as required

Directions

Process cashews, almonds, whey and dates in food processor until finely ground and combined. Add in remaining ingredients, except water, and puree until it starts to stick together. (When you pinch it it should stick together - if it doesn’t you may want to add water).
Press into a glass dish (about a 9” pie plate or square should work) or roll into balls, sprinkle with some more coconut if you want, and refrigerate for an hour or so to let flavors work together and to firm up. Yum!

Per Ball:

Calories: 130 grms

Protein:  8 grms

Carbs:   15 grms

Fat:      4.5 gms

Vegan Mushroom Soup

VEGAN MUSHROOM SOUP

The consistency of this mushroom soup reminds me of the Campell Creamed Mushroom soup, however, it is made from scratch, only with healthy ingredients and it is vegan. And delicious.

• 1 white onion, small diced
• 1 garlic clove, minced
• 1 TB grapeseed oil
• 1 cup of fresh mushroom (e.g. portabella mushroom, shitake, oyster, etc.), cleaned and sliced
• 1 cup of dried mushroom (e.g. shitake, porcini, and/or oyster)
• 1 spring of thyme
• 1/4 cup unflavored almond milk
• 1/2 cup of cooked chickpeas
• 1 ts vegetable bouillon
• optionally: more water, depending on wanted consistency
• salt, pepper to taste

For garnish: more fresh mushroom sauteed in olive oil, salt and pepper and some feta crumbles.
Reconstitute the dried mushrooms in 2 cups of boiling water for about 10min. Heat a pot with the grapeseed oil and fry the onion and garlic until translucent, then add the fresh mushrooms. Saute the mushroom until they are slightly browned. Now, add the dried mushroom with the soaking liquid. Stir and combine well. Bring to a boil, and then turn down the heat to a medium-low simmer. Add the thyme, bouillon, almond  milk and the chickpeas. Simmer on medium-low for ca. 30min. Let it cool, and then puree in a really good blender (e.g. vitamix) to get a creamy, smooth consistency. Reheat, add salt and pepper to taste, and serve with sauteed fresh baby bella mushroom and feta crumbles (optional). 

Tops Ten Reasons Why WLS is Not the Easy Way Out

The Top Ten Reasons why Weight Loss Surgery is NOT “the easy way out”

By Glenn Goldberg (reprinted by permission of the author)

10. It's very expensive. Many health insurance companies don't pay for the surgery, and even when they do, co-payments and other costs add up quickly. Also, it can become very costly to constantly replenish wardrobes as the weight comes off.

9. Recovery can be very painful. Besides the pain from the surgery wound, patients may experience nausea or severe gastric distress. Patients with sleep apnea may become sleep-deprived, with all of the associated adverse affects, when they must discontinue use of their CPAP machines to avoid disturbing the staples creating their tiny new stomach pouch.

8. Recuperation can take a long time. Patients may be “out of commission” and absent from work for a prolonged period of recovery time. In some cases, patients may not be able to return to work or normal pursuits for up to 10 – 12 weeks.

7. It's hard work and a major time commitment. For optimal results, patients should engage in aerobic exercise for up to an hour daily. For bodies unaccustomed to vigorous exercise, this can be very hard. It's also a real challenge for WLS patients to learn all they must about nutrition so they can assure that their food and vitamins are sustaining their body. Finally, it can be exhausting to consciously, carefully and painstakingly chew every bit of food that enters your mouth.

6. Vomiting isn't fun. Nor is diarrhea. It may take patients many months (and frequent episodes of vomiting or diarrhea) to identify incompatible foods and to learn the practical limits of their newly reduced stomachs or digestive systems.

5. It takes extraordinary courage to consciously limit food choices for the rest of your life (and potentially limit social opportunities built around meals). For many patients, life after WLS means treating food as a fuel, not as a source of drama, excitement, comfort or a central life focus: i.e. eating to live rather than living to eat. While some procedures may be reversible, for most patients WLS is a lifetime commitment, requiring a lifetime of major lifestyle changes.

4. Weight loss surgery can be dangerous. As many as .5% of surgery patients may die from the procedure, and up to 5% may experience debilitating medical complications (especially if they listen to their peers' advice more carefully than their doctor's.)

3. It takes great bravery and strength to deflect other people's judgments and society's myths about obesity. Fat people are often blamed and shamed by family and friends with simplistic advice, unrealistic solutions, and uninformed prejudices. Whether it's for genetic or metabolic reasons, diet and exercise, willpower and discipline have never, by themselves, been enough. Our appetite regulators simply don't work. Without WLS, we don't know when we're full!

2. What gives anyone the right to judge which path is right for another? Is a person who runs a 10K taking a “better” or “tougher” route to wellness than the person who walks vigorously every day? Is working with weights better than water aerobics? Different strokes for different folks. Each of us finds our own right way, and how dare others judge our path to health and longevity! By their reckoning, the most courageous thing would be for us to suck it up and die young.

1. For many morbidly obese people, WLS may be the ONLY realistic alternative for achieving a long, healthy life. The newest research provides irrefutable evidence that body weight is largely a function of genes — just like height or a family propensity for cancer. These genes help regulate appetite and metabolism. People prone to obesity seem to gain excessive weight easily, while finding it difficult or impossible to lose it. That's why diets almost always fail and why WLS is currently the only viable weight loss option for many morbidly obese people, according to endocrinologist David Cummings of the Veterans Affairs Puget Sound Health Care System. Most people can lose no more than 5-10% off their "natural" body weight by exercising and eating wisely. Decades of diet studies show that more than 90% of people who lose weight by dieting gain it all back within 5 years. "There are exceptions, but when you are speaking of general rules, the only people who are able to lose more than 10 percent of their body weight and keep it off are people who have had gastric-bypass or other bariatric surgery," Cummings notes.